Men are not taught how to hold their desire — only how to hide it, fear it, or lose control to it.
For thousands of years, male sexuality has been shaped by shame, repression, and confusion. Women have been turned into screens for men’s projections, and men have been turned into strangers to their own erotic nature.
Modern culture did not only distort the masculine relationship to desire — it distorted the feminine relationship to power. Many women learned early that attention, safety, resources, or influence could be gained by becoming an object of desire rather than an embodied subject. Over time, erotic life-force was externalized, stylized, marketed, and performed — no longer lived as truth, but displayed as image.
This is not feminine power. It is feminine energy filtered through the male gaze — a mirror instead of a source.
Celebrity culture, glamour, and hyper-sexualized imagery reward this distortion, reinforcing the illusion that seduction equals sovereignty. In reality, it keeps both men and women trapped: men chasing projections, women performing identities, neither meeting in presence.
True erotic power is not manipulative, strategic, or performative. It is quiet, grounded, and unmistakably real. It does not seek — it radiates.
When a man does not know how to be at home in his desire, that desire becomes a burden carried by the women around him.
Lust itself is never the problem. Lust becomes distorted only when it is fused with fear, guilt, and shame. In that lower vibrational state, desire becomes chaotic, compulsive, and externalized — placed onto women instead of held within the self. But when desire rises through the body — through breath, heart, and consciousness — it transforms. Lust, when mixed with love, awareness, and soul, becomes Eros: sacred, powerful, embodied life force.
Excerpt from my book, “The Sovereign Man”
